Topic: Goodbye/Vacation Thread

@RogerRoger That's odd about @KAIRU since it wasn't that long ago that I responded to one of his posts. He's fine though as far as I know as I still see him on his PS5 daily (I don't play online games, but he's on my friends list).

@RogerRoger I think I found them (we have mutual friends on PSN but you don't seem to be one of them if that's of any comfort). Still not sure whether to try an add. Could be anyone with a similar name lol. I may accidentally reveal my secret identity to an undesirable

@LN78 Yeah I noticed that too.

He is on my friends list too as I always see him playing stuff with a few people on here.

@LN78 @EaglyTheKawaiiShika There’s not really much point responding to it. They basically just insulted me for some reason or another, more than once. Not exactly sure why I’d set them off but to be honest, it could be a number of things as I did notice when the site auto logged me off a while back that there were people that I’d blocked who were continuing to make rather petty comments behind my back so I’ve clearly annoyed someone or another. I don’t really understand why people wouldn’t think that engaging in that sort of behaviour would get the mods involved, it’s basically the bare minimum level of courtesy. We’ve all had disagreements on this forum in relation to various topics but it doesn’t descend into squabbles because that’s beneath us. Block and move on is an easy thing to say but it’s true, if you fundamentally cannot help but get annoyed at somebody’s posts then just block and move on.

@EaglyTheKawaiiShika Which is unfair in and of itself. Not sure what you really have to do with any of it!

@RogerRoger No problem. I only know about Kairu though. I have no idea who evildave333 is.

If memory serves, I remember KAIRU felt the moderation targeted some people and their opinions more than others.

Maybe he was sick of what he believed were double standards?

I was unaware of @evildave333 but did regularly see @KAIRU around the place and always appreciated his views. Hope both are well and that they’ll be in a place to return to the boards again in the future.

@colonelkilgore I sent a friend request to Kairu, would you give them a nudge please and let them know who I am? No worries if not, I don't want to take the Mick and have you be my go between for every departed user 😅

@ralphdibny 🤣… milk and sugar with your coffee sir?

edit. I jest of course, I’ll message him shortly. Did you hear from AgentCooper after?

@colonelkilgore haha 😂 sorry.

Yeah I did, cheers for that. Good to keep contact. It's weird ya know, some people feel like stalwarts on the forum. You just never think they'll leave

P.s. black, no sugar 😆

@ralphdibny ah good, I wasn’t sure as he didn’t get back to me on it. Yeah I hate seeing people ‘unplug’, particularly regulars… but if it’s what they need to do at the time, it is what it is sadly. It’s easy to get into little disagreements with people when using text as the primary form of communication… hell I get into disagreements when face-to-face on the reg 🤣 but I try not to let it change my life in anyway (if I can help it).

Anyways, here you go ☕️

@colonelkilgore thanks slurps

Yeah, it's hard to read intonation. It's what emojis are for but I do find them a bit hard to use sometimes, especially the wink lol. I almost never use the wink. I feel like the wink used to mean something verrrrry different.

But yeah, I completely understand why people need to leave. I've been absent myself at times, without deleting my account, just because I needed to.

If people post and comment within the acceptable rules of the website and moderation is fair, there should be no need for a block button. Personally I think it's always good in life to hear other people's opinions even if they don't conform to your own views - you don't have to agree, but also need to understand not everyone thinks the same as you.

@nessisonett sorry to hear about that. Kyle is a top lad and it's sad to see you blokes fall out.

Nothing 10 pints and a shot of sambuca won't fix of course.

@themcnoisy aww thanks man, you're alright yourself.

As a general rule, I don't block people, because I'm not comfortable making choices that impact the user experience of others.

The ignore function is a great feature, though, and I'd argue should be present in any community online, even if everyone is sticking to TOS. Sometimes people just don't like each-other, and seeing their posts will make one less likely to want to return to the community in the future. While, in general, I believe in people talking and resolving their differences rationally, sometimes people aren't worth talking to, or their values are so different from your own that productive discussion is impossible. In cases like those, ignoring and moving on is a good way to nip potentially drawn out conflicts in the bud.

@LN78 Ignoring just prevents you from seeing a user's post. They're no more the wiser.

Blocking does this, PLUS prevents them from seeing your posts, which can end up being disruptive to their user experience. And, obviously, they'll know they're on your block list eventually, which can generate anxiety, frustration, and anger.

I do think blocking has a place, but only in extreme circumstances. Whereas ignoring hurts literally nobody.

@Ralizah so I can see the option to ‘ignore’ when I tap on a post but I’ve never actually seen the option to ‘block’. So how does one actually block someone… I’m asking for a friend 😉 (whom I intend to block 😎)?

@LN78 don’t tell me we’re thinking of blocking each other 🤣?!?!