Topic: Goodbye/Vacation Thread

Not for the first time, sure it won't be the last.

@HallowMoonshadow @psmr Yeah, it was a crass comment in my opinion but who hasn’t made one of those on here. It can be overwhelming logging in and seeing a bunch of notifications knowing that it’ll be people attacking you. I didn’t see any need to add to that with my own comment. Sometimes it’s best to have some distance until the article drops off the front page.

@nessisonett we all know @Yousef-‘s heart is generally in the right place, so I certainly didn’t make any judgement on them for the comment… and yes, we’ve all said things that on reflection might not have been the best decision. Hopefully they’re well and will be back with their all-around positivity soon.

Sorry to hear that @Yousef- is taking a vacation, hopefully it won’t be a long one.
And yes I guess it is probably that article and I do find that people can pile on when a comment is perhaps poorly judged and as @nessisonett stated we have all been guilty of that (both the comment making and the piling on).

Now as they say “let’s put some poison on our blades’ and let’s go”, it is what Spiders would have wanted (Greedfall is a pretty good game imo).

Seeing the Pragmata thread disappear got me wandering for possible departures and I’m not sure the time frame but looks like kairuu, THEbrew, and stitchjones are all gone. Not sure if any of them were the originators of that thread, but those 3 were the ones immediately seen as having shut down their accounts.

@Th3solution Stich left a couple of weeks ago, he said goodbye to me and perhaps someone else and I think it was in the music thread because that's where we talked the most. It was perhaps a month but he said he's not coming back. He'd just introduced me to the band Rush, I'm not sure of these others but Stich gave his reasons and then left.

@GirlVersusGame Ah, I see. I don’t frequent the music thread (although I do like Rush quite a bit 😄) so wasn’t aware. Those other two users may have also been gone for a while too and I just didn’t know. Kairuu has taken a break and come back before so hopefully they feel inclined to jump back in when the time is right. THEbrew was relatively new so I hadn’t had as much interaction.

I hope StitchJones is okay. They seemed very active for a while with a lot energy and engagement with the forums. Best of luck to all of them, and any others who departed recently that I may have overlooked.

@Th3solution I have his original post/email. The three were me, Ravix and Metonymy. I'd sometimes talk to Stich for hours at night about music, I know with Ravix the sun came up. There's a good mix of genres being discussed. For RUSH it was a whole essay, he went into them with a lot of detail and with great effort. The album that stuck for me was Fly By Night (with the owl on the cover) Stich was posting about bands and music regularly up until he left, I think I was away when he did go. The music link he left wasn't in the email and the original post I think deleted with his profile. We talked once for four-hours while everyone was asleep then deleted our posts right after, I've done that with other people too, it's still a conversation. Memorable too honestly, he told me a lot about his life, history, interests and so on, then after we deleted our posts and focused again on the music but with a better understanding of why we like such music to begin with. That's definitely true for Ravix too, I didn't even know those genres had made it to England, the more you know.

• His post/email.

Hey, I'm just gathering you 3 here and there's prob a couple more I'm forgetting. But anyways, a quick word to you 3 and all the ones that were really cool to talk to on here this last year or so. But I'm deleting my profile here and just wanted to say thank you and it was cool having some discussions with you guys on here. I just choose to not be a part of this site anymore. And every time I say to myself "just hang back and only comment a bit, but don't delete your account" I can't help it, because then something comes out that I would love to be part of the discussion and then it goes around and around.

But this day and age we live in with internet hate, calling everything woke when its not just to incite a riot, framing things in a bad light for no reason, labeling things in ways they are not, trashing all things, trashing all peoples comments....???? Its just not for me anymore. I can't stand reading this crap. I mean we are at this point for example, that this site can't even mention the dev "Naughty dog" or have a discussion about a female main character in any game, or posting a mediocre review on a beloved game, without inciting a riot.

And then when I do chime in about something, somebody finds a way to get offended by it and totally misconstrue what I even said, just to start a problem that's not there. Then I can't help but speak up about it in my defense. But then it paints me as being a Dbag and it totally gets reversed on me lmao. Its like WTF are we doing as a society these days? Its so childish and petty. You can't say sh** to anyone these days. Therefore I'm better off in silence. I prefer that in my real life anyways.

Ive only been a member here for almost a year this summer, but I was reading this website longer than I can remember for gaming news. I just never had an account to be part of the convo until last summer. So I'm fine with just going back to doing that. I wish you all the best and thank you again for the cool talks we had the last 10 months. I leave you with an appropriate and killer song. Later.....

I feel bad cause I am not very active on here any more (not out of some sort of statement, its just been a really boring gaming year for me personally, especially when it comes to my PS5 specifically) and so I don't even notice when people disappear, sometimes months earlier, like I cannot for the life of me remember who started the Pragmata thread, but I am sure they were someone I have interacted with in the past and enjoyed said interactions. Not sure what I am adding to the conversation here exactly, I guess just please no one take my own skattiness as a reflection of anything other than my own mess.

I don't know who had the Pragmata thread @Th3solution but maybe the mods can find and restore it and then we will find out?

@GirlVersusGame thanks for that, actually. When Stitch left I had x amount of notifications loaded on the site, but by the next time I had a minute and clicked through them all ready to read he was already gone and the comment wasn't there any more despite the notification showing on the page. I had been meaning to ask at the time, but i'm weird and if I leave something a while and don't say it right away i'm liable to then find it hard to go back to, and can end up quietly moving on despite having thought about what I was going to say. Hope he's doing alright and maybe still reading the parts of the site he enjoys away from the social media pressures that can occur online.

@Ravix You're welcome. I checked and it was the weekend when the notifications were down, people were saying help to the man with the pink hair, the sky was falling. I remember being in Kuwait and listening to all of those Rush albums, we'd talked about a couple but I was going for the whole discography. I didn't see a notification for him leaving and that email account wipes weekly so I actually saw his post through email after it was deleted here and perhaps one or two days before the original email was gone too. I usually don't keep emails but I still have this one, it would be like deleting the last of a person, not a good feeling. I wanted to post it here but wasn't sure if it was allowed.

I'd like to know what song he did post but it wasn't included. I'd never put words in a persons mouth but we talked a lot about offline and he mentioned a lot about how America is at the moment for him, I see very small hints of that in some comments here but the rest is another planet. I wonder if being exposed to and living around certain things like that daily eventually wears a person down to the point that they do drop off sites and Apps and things. MD83 said he left Facebook because everyone was crazy, I'm not saying this site is crazy but it's a kind of mish-masch of people from different places, with different views, so many external factors and it's possible people say enough is enough and isolate.

I don't think it's entirely regional either, most here are British? it could be that I have a base there so there's already an acceptance or it's treat others as you want to be treated. The last friend I had who isn't part of my current group was also from America and at the start it was fine, very cordial. He started everyday following Twitter, for the news I would suppose. Months later he was easier to anger, always talking about what's happening there (which was alien to me) just going to a store for groceries he would encounter something and it would add to things. What I'm saying is it's impossible to know how much pressure is on a person offline and when it mixes with their safe-harbor/gaming? I think rather than allowing further contamination they sever the connection. I almost left last-week over something similar but a friend reminded me that the person who said those things was an idiot and it wasn't personal, she thinks it was directed at someone else. I don't know, both comments were deleted and life goes on. I shouldn't have been thinking about it but I was, now I can shake it off and move on.

I try to respond to notifications but some I do miss, I don't think realistically it's possible to keep up to so many people and Stich was on another time-zone to begin with. I was paws deep in chronic jet-leg each time we talked, no one else was awake here when we'd talk. Which makes me question when and if TheSoloution sleeps? I've seen him awake at GMT time. I'm still I think three-weeks behind posts but it's the Summer too and a lot of people are drawn outside by the big ball of fire in the sky. I think the last posts I saw from you were all of the Silverstein then was the Grand Prix and I didn't see your name again until Henry with to Miami. Or I wasn't following those threads to begin with, so perhaps welcome back?

Happy trails to those recently departed.

Kairu has definitely been and gone a few times, but never got the pleasure to interact with Stitch, sounds like a stellar human. I've felt exactly what he was feeling many times in the last 5 or 6 years I've been hanging around here.

Take care, all, if you're lurking 👍

@Th3solution kairuu's account has not been deleted as their posts are still showing, and last posted in the football thread about 10 days ago.

Wherever anybody is, in here or out there, I just hope they're alright.

@GirlVersusGame yeah. I kind of dip in and out of the site, too, (often just to make a silly comment) sometimes i'll come on and mean to reply to people, start typing or think about what I was going to say, but then get distracted by the real world and end up leaving a tab open for another time, or forgetting and then getting that feeling of I missed the moment and so I kind of just let it pass by. Funnily enough, I haven't even listened to any music since that you mention, which is kind of why I hadn't yet responded there yet, so that is a similar type of thing, and then time passes. Even this response I left half done in an open tab.

But I agree, even if this site isn't like social media too much in the forum, the comments section very much is, and that can be very tiring. I barely read any articles at all now as I know it is just going to be followed by the typical war of words. I think for some of us socialising with people on the internet is draining enough even without the negative stuff creeping in because it still takes time and effort, which is why I think a lot of this happens. Sometimes people just need time away from the internet.

@JohnnyShoulder Oops, my bad. I think I must have referenced their previous profile with two u’s and now it’s three u’s. 😄