@Werehog First thank you for answering, secondly sorry again for asking.
The Pridewall of Tjuz, I built it for him in my world. It's a screenshot so it counts.
You said Lone Wolves, my Partner and I operate similarly. He doesn't like people because he has to deal with them all day long and as soon as he leaves a meeting he tells everyone to dissolve into the woodwork. I think, but never asked, that he owned animals before me and he really cared about them, lost them and never wanted to lose another pet again so he sourced me so to speak. We do enjoy space, usually away from everyone else.
My girlfriend like your Boyfriend doesn't live with us, but I do need another female in my life sporadically so we do spend time together, watch movies, talk, the small things, no gaming because it's not her thing. I do maintain a certain level of distance between both throughout each day, it's done for study, learning, gaming, sneaking posts on here/networks to have friends. He's a very smart man, I think he knows I'm talking to someone, my friends think so too, but that he's giving me privacy because I never had it before.
I don't think people understand age differences like that. For me it's perfectly normal, I gravitate to intelligence, maturity and strength. There's teaching there too and I look at having that other Person in my life as a guide too, I don't understand the world, but he does. One of my friends once said Sugar Daddy so I asked what that was and couldn't stop laughing when she told me, it's the other way around.
I can only speak for myself with regards a recent lack of screenshots to share, There's also the issue of self-confidence you rightly allude to. Mine's at rock bottom by default, so that doesn't help!
You need to kick your self-confidence up a notch, people are more than they think, they make a big difference without knowing. You do it all the time on here with what might be to you random posts, to others they mean something.
Both me and my partner are cis-gendered males (meaning we were born male and continue to identify as male) and use male pronouns. With regards our living arrangements, there's nothing specifically "gay" about them.
After talking to Tjuz I thought gay people live in pink houses and sing and dance all day, even do each others nails, I'm not being ignorant it just sounded that way. Then my mind went further and I thought if you were Tails then he must be Sonic, I told my friend that and she was speechless.
There is unfortunately a lot of misinformation based around preconceptions of, and assumptions.
Which is what I just demonstrated and was going to delete it, but it does prove your point.
My partner and I just value our own space (me a little more than him, there's no perfect balance but we make it work)
I had no space with my Ex and zero privacy. I still haven't finished Demon's Souls because of him. I had it and the PS5 weeks early, he'd allocate one-hour for gaming and then after twenty-minutes say I'd not only run out of time but that I'd gone over that hour. He was trying to convince me that all of my friends hated me and trying to remove that space too. Now I do have space when I need it, but I use it productively and it sounds like you do. I sometimes wander into meetings, quietly game while he works, but if space is needed he never questions it, which is why I get to post here. Although my idea of space is sometimes a cardboard box and don't knock it until you try it, I can fit a whole mission control in there. It feels as safe as Fort Knox.
There are also practical concerns, but that's his story to share, so I won't be doing it here. Please don't interpret that as an issue with your question! I'm just respecting his privacy, s'all.
I completely understand, the last person who told me that had faith as a factor. I'm not saying you do but I'll share this because I think it's important.
Some years ago I had an American pen-pal, she was also from an old Family, cut-off from the world, had 'everything' she needed. We eventually met in her State, Alabama. It was all normal until dinner. Her Grandparents came, started talking about God, about when they were courting and about how they kept their vows, by being sewn into separate beds. I dropped my fork. Dinner continued, later my friend and I were excused. We went to her bedroom, listened to Christian Metal (it's a thing) Skillet, FlyLeaf, Breaking Benjamin and started talking about men/boys. She told me she'd never kissed anyone and that she was saving herself for Jesus, I thought she meant actual Jesus so I was confused. I offered to help, showed her how to kiss, did some other things and then we went back downstairs. Perhaps an hour later I heard shouting, her Dad came into the room and lit me up. He called me a harlot/etc, and all kinds of words, my guys were ready to take him to the floor because they had no idea what was going on. She'd felt shame for going against her faith, told her Dad. We left, I never saw her again. I had my friends do some digging. They found her, said she married, I saw she was happy and I felt happy for her too. I wanted to reach out but won't, she lives a life of faith and I don't. We both live by strict rules, her Church Fathers are at the top, she lives by Family honor, everything she does is a reflection on her Husband, I live the same way too, but I don't believe in marriage. Just the people and I don't think God cares about a ring, just the love itself.
I love him to bits and still can't quite believe how lucky I am that he appears to think the same of me.
I said almost the same thing word for word to someone recently, even the bits part.
The first thing I do every morning is call him, without fail, and then we pester one another multiple times throughout the day, either by phone or text.
That right there restores something that I recently felt was tarnished on this site. Yesterday something happened. I won't go into the full details, it was related to my country, comments were made, I was told that the bullet-holes they walk past each day were my fault, I was ready to quit the site for good. Others reminded me that there are good people here. And that 'something' I think is humanity, everyone has it, some struggle to show it. That one line you typed helped me feel it.
I was at sea recently, for weeks in the middle of nothingness. I kept checking here because I thought we'd nuked you. I thought I'd been removed from England/Europe because we were going to or had destroyed it. I eventually asked my Partner and he immediately said we were going back to London. Yes it's the internet, yes it's distant but that doesn't mean people don't care and my thinking you had all been destroyed, I don't have the words. It's because of propaganda and piecing together things people said on here, they brought politics into comments.
My friends had an intervention and said if I use the comments section to be extremely careful, they'd prefer I stopped completely and just post on the forums. I'm trying now to be selective but a lot was said yesterday.
We see each other on average once a week (usually just to catch up on movies and TV shows we watch together
Does he like Godzilla too? did you meet through a similar interest like gaming/Godzilla/Sonic?
Nobody perfectly fits the terms they use to identify themselves, despite social media doing its best to convince them otherwise. This is easier said than done, but try not to get too upset if you accidentally cause offence.
I never had social-media, nor your society so there's been no template to judge but for propaganda, I'm still not sure what people do on social-media other than talk about A.I. and complain about things. Tjuz wondered why I kept leaving chat on the hour, it was my people checking on me by the hour, it's just part of normality. I did ask for social-media once and was give a big 'over my dead body', which was expected.
As I said before, you always come at these kinds of discussions from a genuine, well-meaning place. That's pretty much the best you can do. The rest is up to the other party.
It's the only way I know how, I didn't know things like bigotry and racism even existed, I do now but I still don't understand how anyone could not like someone just because of their skin colour, where they come from, or who they love. God and Governments can't decide that, only the people involved.
And the fact that you're conscious of this stuff, and trying to avoid hurting others in future? That makes you way, way better than most. Trust me, you're all good.
That means a lot. Someone said something similar today, unexpected, I had no words.
So, if there's ever anything else you wanna ask, then by all means, fire away!
(likewise for you, return fire if needed)
Do you think gaydar is real? Does he take you places like the zoo? does your society look strangely at people if they are both male and holding hands? If you think there's somewhere else more freeing for LGBT people in the world where is it and would you move there? Have you ever seen any comments on here that seemed anti LGBT and do you remember what you felt at the time? I think I've seen them but I'm not sure. Do you think LGBT people are fairly represented in video-games and do you think they are given enough of a spotlight to begin with? Do you know what age you were when you knew you liked boys? (you can skip any if they are too personal)
These violent delights have violent ends & in their triumph die, like fire & powder Which, as they kiss, consume.
Crimson Desert, taken on the Pro with everything turned on. Disclaimer: The games Aperture and Focal Lengths are absolutely broken, I'm no game Developer but their Beta Camera needs work. I'll eventually add some more, I'm being mindful of spoilers too.
For me this journey has so far (in pictures) been about just admiring the world and it's characters. Perhaps I don't play enough Triple-A games, but the level of detail feels otherworldly, I've never seen characters with so much expression before, it's really impressive.
These violent delights have violent ends & in their triumph die, like fire & powder Which, as they kiss, consume.
@GirlVersusGame You have nothing to apologise for! S'all good, trust me!
Also, if we need to preface this with a screenshot to keep it relevant, then as the old saying goes, here are some I prepared earlier...
Although I didn't personally build that wall in Marvel's Spider-Man, so it's far less impressive than your effort. I'm sure @Tjuz appreciated the gesture!
Before I get to a reply proper, I also wanted to add that your Crimson Desert shots are great, especially considering that you mention the sorry state of the Photo Mode! I wouldn't have been able to tell from what you've taken, they look very well-captured, and like a lot of fun, too!
Right, with apologies for it nearly having been a whole week...
You said Lone Wolves, my Partner and I operate similarly. [...] We do enjoy space, usually away from everyone else.
There's an enormous amount of social pressure and expectation, at least in our culture, where outgoing traits are celebrated as being "normal" and "healthy" and the opposite is true, that introverts should be forced "out of their shells" for their own good. Without wanting to use hyperbolic terminology, it can get quite brutal and oppressive for non-conformists. I'm pleased that you and your partner have been able to carve out your own space. It sounds like, despite how complex your life can sometimes be, he's somebody who respects you, and no matter the details, that really is healthy (and awesome of him).
You need to kick your self-confidence up a notch, people are more than they think, they make a big difference without knowing. You do it all the time on here with what might be to you random posts, to others they mean something.
There is a lot I'll often skip over when replying to folks around here, and believe me when I say that this sort of quote is usually the first to go. I do not take praise well, but I'm trying to do better in that regard, and so I'm forcing myself to highlight it. Thank you, really.
After talking to Tjuz I thought gay people live in pink houses and sing and dance all day, even do each others nails, I'm not being ignorant it just sounded that way.
That's called "camp" and, while there is a lot of crossover (as dangerous as they can be, stereotypes exist for a reason) being camp is not exclusive to being gay. There are plenty of straight men who are camp as Christmas, same as there are plenty of gay men who aren't. I should know, since I'm one of the latter. Deep voice, scruffy hair, no fashion sense, prefer action movies to musicals, etc. and while they're all surface-level things that mean nothing in the grand scheme, it's that kinda stuff people use to make snap judgements. The most common response I used to get, from friends, family and strangers alike, was, "No, you're not gay, you can't be!" and as much as I understood that those words were never any kind of order or anything... well, let's just say hearing them didn't exactly help.
I had no space with my Ex and zero privacy. I still haven't finished Demon's Souls because of him. I had it and the PS5 weeks early, he'd allocate one-hour for gaming and then after twenty-minutes say I'd not only run out of time but that I'd gone over that hour. He was trying to convince me that all of my friends hated me and trying to remove that space too.
He sounds like a proper jerk. Actually, he sounds like a lot of much stronger words, but this is a family forum, so we'll go with "proper jerk" for now. I'm glad you got out.
Although my idea of space is sometimes a cardboard box and don't knock it until you try it, I can fit a whole mission control in there. It feels as safe as Fort Knox.
When I was a kid, I used to love being crammed in the family car when it was full of camping gear, and had more fun on the journeys than at the actual destinations. Boxes would get packed around me and I'd make sure I had a few of my things to hand, a comic or a game, but then the door would get slammed and I'd be in my own, cramped little bubble for a couple hours. It's safe to say that I'm not claustrophobic!
...the last person who told me that had faith as a factor. I'm not saying you do but I'll share this because I think it's important.
While I haven't quoted any parts of your American story, please know that I very much appreciate you sharing it with me. It's very wide of the mark with regards my partner, but I have had similar experiences in the past, both involving and separate from organised religion, and so I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. I'm glad you were able to see that she eventually seemed happy, if only to make your own peace with the memory. For the record, I also personally agree with your closing line, that love is the most important factor in a relationship, and that everything else is just window dressing.
I was told that the bullet-holes they walk past each day were my fault...
What utter nonsense. I sometimes miss a lot between visits and indeed, did miss the incident in question, but had I been passing through, I would have logged in and commented in your defence. That's a horrible thing to say to somebody, internet stranger or otherwise. You deserve better.
My friends had an intervention and said if I use the comments section to be extremely careful, they'd prefer I stopped completely and just post on the forums.
For what it's worth, I used to post on the front page articles a lot, and now I very rarely do. Quite a few of the forum regulars don't post in the comments, and vice versa. Different worlds with different objectives and, as you unfortunately discovered, totally different vibes. The forums are far less public-facing and so far more chill, and far more open for people to be themselves, without fear of attack.
Does he like Godzilla too? did you meet through a similar interest like gaming/Godzilla/Sonic?
No, we met through work. Bless him, he "tolerates" my interests, the same way I make an effort to engage with his. He has a fantastic home cinema / sound system, so he gets a big kick out of the technical presentation of big blockbuster movies, the 4K Dolby Atmos of it all, but aside from keeping himself vaguely current with pop culture, they're not his favourite thing. In terms of artistic tastes and surface-level details, we're quite opposite in many ways. He'll often tease me that "Mario is better than Sonic" and crack silly jokes to undercut Godzilla, Star Wars, etc. but there's also plenty of agreement, and we have both introduced one another to a couple new favourites over the years.
"If I let not knowing anything stop me from doing something, I'd never do everything!"
I never had social-media, nor your society so there's been no template to judge but for propaganda, I'm still not sure what people do on social-media other than talk about A.I. and complain about things.
Honestly, I couldn't tell you, even if I wanted to. Aside from this website (and I guess my PSN profile, if that counts) I'm not on social media. It scares the heck outta me.
Yes! Although I'm not a big fan of zoos, as they tend to make the animals perform for the crowds and I think that's cruel, but we do visit conservancies and sanctuaries. We also like Disneyland Paris, but only in the dead of winter, when there's barely anybody else there.
does your society look strangely at people if they are both male and holding hands?
Luck of the draw. It's better than it used to be, but kids can still be cruel, bigots can still feel entitled, and hate crime is still a very real issue. It's kinda like, you can be the best driver in the world, but the same can't be said for all the other drivers on the road, so you're still at risk of a crash. I like to think that most people wouldn't care, but it's more likely that they wouldn't even notice to begin with.
If you think there's somewhere else more freeing for LGBT people in the world where is it and would you move there?
I'm afraid I wouldn't know (and certainly wouldn't emigrate on the basis of my sexuality, it's simply not that important to me). Google tells me the top five are Canada, Iceland, Malta, the Netherlands, and Spain, so I guess I'm lucky, because I like Canada and Iceland, so if I were forced...?
Do you think LGBT people are fairly represented in video-games and do you think they are given enough of a spotlight to begin with?
Not in videogames, no. It's different in books, movies, television, etc. but one of gaming's biggest draws is the immersion factor, casting you as a protagonist and letting you feel as though you're personally undertaking an adventure. I'm on record as being furious with certain story-driven games for forcing "me" to partake in a straight romance when others have, at the very least, included the courtesy of an option not to (and indeed, the best gay protagonists are found in RPGs where everything's already an option anyway, and none of your choices are canon). This is one of the few issues I can get quite intransigent about. We have the technology. There is no excuse. Either cater to everybody, or don't include it at all. End of debate.
Do you know what age you were when you knew you liked boys?
Nope. It's just always been my default setting. Coming to terms with how society viewed me and what that would mean for my life going forward...? Well, that was a whole other journey!
"If I let not knowing anything stop me from doing something, I'd never do everything!"
Two more, this time from today. My first bear encounter, I died to him after taking that one. And some beautiful forest children roaming through their meadow during a heavy downpour.
I'll edit this post and add more as I go, it's such a nice looking game and world.
The children's village where they grow and cultivate their catnip for their many feline friends.
If you’re up for playing Granblue Versus Rising, please ping me. I can also play Guilty Gear, Blazblue, Melty or Under Night. No SF6 or Tekken cuz I lack hardware space.
@Yousef- Oh thank you, it's rare I get so lost in a world but Crimson Desert's is so visually stunning and their characters radiate so much expression. The one with the children was taken near their village. It was so beautiful that I stayed there for probably two-hours just drinking it all in, there were cats everywhere, they were playing with the cats, there were cat men guarding them, it was really magical. The wall of sound was was like a sea of meows, mews and purs, I didn't want to leave.
@nolifebr I've heard of Saros but never seen it, for some reason I thought it would be very orange. I really like that second shot, it reminds me of some of the concepts from the earlier Fromsoft Design Work books. They are all in Japanese so I don't know what they said, for me the art was the main draw, it looks like the Saros design team did go similar places with their aesthetic. The ceiling and buttresses in that last one lean more towards Giger's earlier work too, I'll look into adding a Saros art-book to my collection, providing one exists.
@nolifebr Amazing screen shots!! I hope you enjoyed your time in Carcosa, like @cainhurst94 says the art direction is truly on another level, with biome 1 being my personal favourite.
@GirlVersusGame - To be honest, the game takes on a very orange hue at times due to a specific gameplay mechanic. However, it features a wide variety of biomes (ranging from open fields to mining sites).
@Oram77 - Really enjoyed the game. Can't say for sure if I found it better than Returnal, but I liked it equal if not more. That gameplay is really addictive. Really fun platinum as well...
@nolifebr I do quite like the orange too, it works really well with that bold mix of architecture. It's the kind of game I'd admire from an art-book and usually do, but I know what the actual game entails and I like slow and steady a little too much to ever put myself through the craziness that people have told me about Saros. I found my own tree too, now we both have one. But do you have goats.
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